Anna Richey 2013
I want to share with you a truth that I have found in my experiences with Christians, pro-choicers, pro-lifers, and just people in general. This does not apply to everyone I know, but it does apply to most. When discussing the subject of abortion, the conversation invariably leads back to the “tough” scenario of that (insert underage number here) year old girl who was raped and finds herself pregnant.
The only kind, loving, and humane thing to do is to allow this girl the option of having an abortion, right? After all, she isn’t at fault for becoming pregnant, and she is far too young! No one can expect this girl to raise a child when she is still a child herself, after all! Adoption is hardly even an option due to the health dangers of carrying a baby to term because the mother is young and so small. Of course, the conventional wisdom tells us that this girl will never be able to recover from the trauma of having to look at her rapist’s baby every day for the rest of her life. Generally speaking, both sides of the abortion debate agree in this area.
And I’m here to tell you, both sides are dead wrong! Let me tell you why:
- Young girls naturally love babies. That’s the way God designed us. We are the lovers, nurturers, and the heart of the family. That is why little girls play with dolls; they’re play-acting at being “mommy,” a God given desire for many, if not most, young girls. So, when this little girl, after living through a horrible experience, finds out that she is going to have a baby, what is her natural reaction? Of course, she feels fear. Her body is changing, and she is facing a future she knows nothing about. But there is also anticipation. She knows that there is a baby there, and that baby is hers!
- Yes, she is young for raising a child, but I would dare to say not too young. In the past, girls married and had children at a young age all the time! It is only recently that we have begun changing our views on when a girl is old enough to be a parent. No, we do not still live in the dark ages, but our inherent nature to be mothers is still there inside of us.
- I don’t buy the health danger excuse, at all. With modern medicine and technology, there is very little risk to the girl. I am personally a very small person, and know others who are full grown women, who are just as small as I am. Some even smaller! We were still able to give birth to healthy children. Some of us had to go on bed rest for a while, or be monitored closely. Some of us even had to have our children prematurely, and several had children by caesarian section.
- I can tell you from experience, abortion does not unrape the girl. It does not help her to find healing. It only adds further trauma to an already hurting girl. What society is asking her to do is to kill her baby on top of being a rape victim. Make no mistake, that girl knows she is carrying a baby. I will also tell you that if this girl is in a situation of molestation or incest, the abortion removes the evidence needed to put her attacker behind bars, and frees him to continue to hurt this girl over and over again.
- God does not make mistakes. Ever. God is the creator of all life. If He put a child in this child’s womb, he has a purpose for both of them. We cannot say that we believe in an all-powerful, all-knowing Creator, if we think that he would make a mistake that we must fix.
- Most girls who were raped and pregnant agree that the baby will help her to heal from her rape. Having someone good, innocent, and perfect in her eyes to focus on, love, and live for instead of just the memories of the rape, will help her to get through the hard times. That baby will give her a purpose, and will love her unconditionally when her whole world has been turned upside down.
So, why would we want or even be accepting of abortion in such a case? Simply put, it is because of our own selfishness. We, as a society, don’t want to face the harsh truth that this happens to these little girls. It’s ugly. It’s horrifying. It’s evil and we don’t want to see it. We like pretending that it doesn’t happen, so we try to get rid of the evidence, so we don’t have to think about it. Rather than receiving true love and support, this young girl is pressured to endure even more horror all so that we can be comfortable in our own little worlds. While she continues to suffer, we can continue to watch football, go to church, or just stay home, intently focused on the fictitious reality of television and video games like nothing ever happened.