Aswad Ayinde,whose actual name is Charles McGill, directed the R&B group, the Fugees’, “Killing Me Softly” video, has been found guilty and sentenced to 90 years in prison for sexually assaulting two of his daughters and fathering six children according to the Daily News. As posted in Naija “When Kibibi’s first child was born without defects, Ayinde took it as a sign that he was creating a ‘pure’ bloodline.” ( I’ve met several people conceived in incest who do not have “defects.” ) He began raping one daughter at the age of 8.
Incest is to most people, appalling, but it’s a very well kept secret among families of perpetrators. I personally know ten women who had fathers or step fathers continually rape them from as far as they can remember and even into adulthood. The victims are threatened and made to believe it is their fault. They are beaten and told it will be worse if they tell. Perpetrators assure their victims that if they don’t comply their siblings or mother will get the same or more. So the victims aren’t keeping quiet because they enjoy the abuse. They are selflessly giving their own life to protect others in the family. Those who have never experienced incest find it hard to believe the victims won’t escape or tell someone. Remember it usually may start as early as two years of age. They are programmed with fear. The perpetrator knows exactly what it takes to keep their victims silent.
“I was afraid to ever accuse him of being demented or being a pedophile,” Beverly Ayinde, who married him in 1977, told the court. “I knew the word, but I wouldn’t dare use it because it would result in a beating.” from NYDailyNews “Prosecutors said Ayinde kept the kids from blabbing by beating them with wooden boards or kicking them with steel-toed boots.”
From the stories I’ve heard this is a generational curse passed down from one family to the next. Incest seems to be increasing or at least being discovered more often now. Glenn Beck talked about abuse in his own family being passed down from generations. The bible talks about generational curses too. With all the sexual “freedom” shown on TV and pushed into our face at every turn it is no wonder that sexual perversions seem to be emerging everywhere. I can never understand why a man would follow the urges to sexually abuse anyone. His role as father is to love and protect and there is nothing in sexual abuse that does either.
“According to court documents, the former music producer and self-proclaimed prophet fathered six children with his daughters over the years. He also had nine children with his former wife, Beverly, and another three with two other women.
“He said the world was going to end, and it was just going to be him and his offspring and that he was chosen,” Beverly Ayinde said at a pre-trial hearing.
“I was afraid to ever accuse him of being demented or being a paedophile. I knew the word, but I wouldn’t dare use it because it would result in a beating.”
The wives of these men sometimes refuse to believe what’s happening and just look the other way. Some actually attack the daughter for what’s happening, blaming the daughter instead of the man. But there are women who are standing strong defending their daughters. Anna Richey (featured in our new documentary ProLife Without Exception) had a strong mother who did what was right for her daughter. Anna’s step father was able to keep her silenced for years being very careful not to reveal his secret to his wife. Anna became pregnant at 12 and her step father beat her, gave her a pill and she lost the baby. Like Aswad Ayinde this man probably felt confident he would never be discovered. The next time Anna became pregnant at 13 she raised all the courage she could and took the chance to confide in her mom. Her mom did what many won’t. She gathered her children to safety immediately away from their home and called the police. Rape Conception is proof that the step father was guilty. Anna gave birth to a beautiful baby girl and her step father went to prison. Sadly he was in prison only 10 years but at least he was away from Anna and would hurt no one else during that time.
As with Aswad Ayinde these men do not stop at one daughter. Some of them actually continue raping for generations. Fathers will rape the daughter and then also rape the daughter conceived in rape from the first daughter. I know someone who dropped dead as he was trying to rape the daughter he fathered by his first daughter. I am grateful that this kind of abuse is surfacing and these men are being put away. It’s time to address the perversions of sex and protect women. The real “war on women” is the acceptance of the sexual freedom and believing it’s good to experience sex early and often. It is not freedom that puts women in mental prisons. A friend of mine was deemed mentally unstable because she was single and didn’t have sex for 20 years. Her doctor literally wanted to put her on drugs!
Our world is obsessed with sex.
If you’re reading this and you are being raped by family or anyone else contact someone. Contact us. If you have conceived in rape we most definitely can help you as we have helped so many others. We have a large network of mothers who have been raped by fathers, step fathers, siblings, uncles, boyfriends, husbands, and strangers. Rape is anytime you do not want to have sex and it happens anyways. No one has the right to do this. Not even a father has rights to rape his daughter. And let me add that no one has the right to rape boys or men either. My focus is on women but I want to say that boys experience the same abuse and fear.
Aswald Ayinde can never pay the debt of ruined lives but at least he is forced to stop hurting his daughters. If you suspect a friend being sexually abused ask her to get help or call someone and ask how you can help her move forward. Here is one source Stop It Now It must stop now!